to win to win to win to win.
…right… Sorry; I mesmerized myself and got carried away (…story of my life…).
Anyway, what I want to talk about tonight is winning. …because I love winning…
…no, not really. Well, I do like to come out on top usually, but that’s not what I really want to talk about.
What I really want to talk about is…well, I still want to talk about winning, but in a context a little more complicated than simply winning or losing. I’m going to talk about it in the context of…wait for it… arguments! Did you gasp? Because I certainly did.
I’m talking about relationships again. Weird, right? Yeah, so anyway…this is important, so listen closely!
This is somewhat related to what I talk about in one of my previous posts about Logic vs Emotion (if you haven’t read it, I recommend reading it. Obviously.), when I mention taking responsibility for situations to create peace. A lot of the time the most important thing to us in an argument is winning. Proving the other person wrong, or stubbornly standing our ground until the other person gives up – or worse! (I think “worse” is usually what ends up happening though…so, basically you’ll probably want to pay attention to what I say). So, it’s easy to get caught up in this little “I’m right, you’re wrong” war. In fact, it’s so easy to get caught up in it that sometimes we even forget why we’re even warring over it to begin with! How bogus is that? Even so, we still have this grand idea that it’s definitely still worth fighting over (cool). At a certain point, this war has to end, and it could either end really badly, or as peacefully as possible. I think we all want the latter to be the result, and if you do, then there’s one completely simple, and seemingly easy (but nothing in these situations is easy) thing you can do to avoid all of this unnecessary fighting, arguing, and bickering (and more possibly worse things, like heartbreak, tears, broken limbs, flying sheep, etc).
Like I said, sometimes winning seems even more important to us than being at peace with each other and (hopefully) living in loving harmony with one another (sounds so lovely and packed full of Care Bear-love and rainbows, right?). One of the most important, responsible, and effective things you can in this situation is to let yourself, as an individual, lose, so that you and your lover, as a couple, can win (I think there were probably like six-too-many commas in that sentence, but just roll with it, please and thank you).You need to sacrifice your pride, and your unrelenting desire and need to prove something. It takes a pretty amazing person to throw their ego aside so that they can create peace with their significant other/person/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend/love minion/whatever they are, but everyone has the power inside of them to do so. Be strong, and do the better thing by throwing your own selfish needs away for the sake of your relationship. The only things that needs to be present are love, understanding, acceptance, and a little healthy dose of jealousy aaaaaaand maybe a healthy little dose of tension as well (I’m sure I’m missing seven or eight other things, but we’ll just go with those for now).
Thank you for reading, and I hope that this was helpful to you in some way! The next time you find yourself in an argument with your loved one, be mindful of why you are arguing, what it’s accomplishing, and how you can be the peacemaker and save you and your loved one a lot of unnecessary hurt, and potentially your future. So! On that positive note, I’m going to sign off and wish you all a lovely, lovely evening full of…well, whatever you want, honestly…
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Yours truly,
Rowmantic.
Rowmantic 